Everybody feels vulnerable when they’re lonely. Because let’s face it, it’s a scary AF concept. Even as I write this, ‘Scared to be lonely’ plays through my headphones, confirming I’m not the only one feeling this way.

I’m currently gallivanting around the beautiful Greek islands solo, and it’s made me develop a sense of sadness. There are too many couples on the islands for me to count and therefore some situations have become increasingly difficult.

For example, putting sunscreen on my own back, having to put a self-timer on to take photos of myself then having people notice that I’m using a self-timer (#noshame). Not to mention always having to pay for my own meals and drinks and because I’m a girl, always watching my back as I walk home alone.

So, I sit in the blue water and desperately await my Prince Charming. Or, some tanned, tattooed Greek God to provide me with endless supplies of gyros and freddo cappucinos. But of course, this is silly. Being lonely doesn’t mean that you need to be in a relationship.

For all the broken hearted or single people out there, this one’s for you.

You Don’t Need Someone To Complete You

First and foremost, I think it’s important to understand that we don’t need to be in a relationship with someone to be a complete person.

I hate that cringe-worthy term ‘my other half’ so much. You shouldn’t hold someone accountable for making you feel whole. I believe that someone should feel whole in themselves before they find a relationship.

Being On Your Own Is Actually More Satisfying 

It’s honestly wonderful! You have the power to choose virtually everything – your mood, your situation and how you live. There’s no thinking about what your boyfriend/girlfriend wants to do. You make all the decisions when it comes to food, travel… everything.

It’s very satisfying to recognise the perks of being alone, and it also means you can have as many cocktails as you want without being interrupted. I respect this.

Self-Growth Is Built On The Foundation Of Loneliness

When I’m alone, I learn more about my strengths and capabilities.

Self-growth happens when your mind is open to different perspectives. Instead of focusing on your relationship, you can envision your personal goals and take steps towards them.

Solo Travel Is More Of An Achievement

We all need challenges in life so we can learn to overcome a whole range of obstacles.

I make the decision every year to travel solo because I know it’s going to be a challenge and a half. I want to struggle – not only in travelling but in life – so that I can look back on those moments and remember them fondly.

Even though I don’t have a special someone to take a photo of me at a tranquil beach, I can remember the struggle of finding a stable rock for a self-timer and feel proud of myself when I finally get the shot. Or I can remember the struggle of trying to navigate my way through busy cities and metro stations.

If I travelled with someone else I would always take the easy road. Instead, these everyday struggles make me appreciate the beauty of travel more.

Now go and embrace the power of being alone, my lovelies!

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Elly-Grace writes as a means of escape to her Greek summer fantasies. Watch This Space is her blog where she delights you in poetry and travel memoirs.