Five things we’re all guilty of doing after a breakup
It doesn’t matter if you’re the one to initiate the breakup or you’re the one who’s been dumped – either way, breakups are hard. It’s not easy to cut off ties from someone you've grown so close to. If you’re going through a hard time, there’s some things you probably shouldn’t do if you don’t want to make the situation worse. But we get it, we’ve all done these things.
Facebook stalking
When you were dating, you know what your significant other was doing pretty much every day of the week. So it's weird when you break up to have a sudden void in your life where you no longer have a clue. Despite this, you should avoid the stalking at all costs. It will be harder to let go if you keep up to date with their life and it can drive you crazy if you’re checking what they’re up to every hour of the day. If you don’t think it’s a situation where you could ever be friends, best to play it safe and block them on social media.
Holding on and not moving on
It’s OK to analyse what went wrong, but it’s dangerous territory if you’re obsessing over it. If you continue to think about the relationship and say you’re not ready to start dating yet, it means you’re still in denial about the breakup. It's fine to have some time to yourself and not jump into anything right away, but it's healthy to get out there and start dating again. Once you start dating, you might realise there are people out there who are much better for you than your ex.
Forming unhealthy habits
Most of us will be guilty of this if we’ve been dumped. It can go one of two ways – we might eat and drink our feelings, or we go on a diet and exercise binge to an unhealthy extent. Anything in extreme is a bad idea, so try to maintain your everyday habits in the face of a breakup. Of course you should be able to have a night of binging on junk food to make yourself feel better, as long as it doesn’t turn into a recurring habit.
Drunk calling and texting
You’ll probably be full of self-control when you’re sober. But after a few drinks you suddenly forget what a terrible terrible idea it is and drunk message or call them. It’s a bad idea because a) you should cut off contact if you want to get over it and b) you will be drunk, so you will be probably very incomprehensible. You know you will regret it, so either delete the number or download an app that will prevent you from drunk dialling.
Getting with someone you really shouldn’t on a rebound
There might be someone you know is crushing on you, but you don’t feel the same way. Most of us have been guilty of wanting to indulge ourselves and regain our confidence by talking to or even hooking up with the person. My advice – don’t do it. You might be feeling low and the easy solution is to find someone who’ll make you feel better. But you’ll end up hurting that person if you know you don’t want anything serious and they do. Leading them on is a dick move, so avoid at all costs.
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