A Woman Suggested Men Shouldn’t Order Sweets, So The ‘Dessert Is Gay’ Meme Was Born
Fellas, is it gay to eat desserts?
Fragile masculinity can really be a trip.
The mere idea that men can’t partake in activities deemed feminine in any way is crazy. While some activities — like cooking and cleaning — are traditionally seen as more feminine, there isn’t really a gender that rules over the consumption of food.
That is, until now. Apparently, eating anything other than a main meal in the eyes of Twitter user @ms_fishscale is “a female thing to do.”
a guy ordering dessert on a date is a red flag for me. that’s a female thing to do fr.
— lyssa ms. aquafinaaa (@ms_fishscale) April 12, 2020
In a series of tweets, Houston-based cook Lyssa shared that she thought men ordering dessert on a date is a “red flag.”
Following up her initial tweet, Lyssa explained that women should be the only one asking for appetisers and desserts because “men eat meals.” Continuing her thought, she shared that she’d rather a man order two mains instead of sides because men “look sassy ordering a spinach dip.”
if a guy is on a date with a woman, the woman should be the only one asking for appetizers and dessert. men eat MEALS. like seriously. you can just taste some of whatever i ordered.
— lyssa ms. aquafinaaa (@ms_fishscale) April 13, 2020
i would seriously rather a nigga order 2 meals than to order an appetizer before his meal. if you dat damn hungry 🙄 you look sassy orderin a spinach dip.
— lyssa ms. aquafinaaa (@ms_fishscale) April 13, 2020
Now it goes without saying that there is nothing inherently feminine or masculine about eating food. Eating a side of chicken wings doesn’t suddenly make you crave dick, much like how eating a steak instead of salad doesn’t make you magically grow a beard.
Enjoying a three-course meal isn’t a gendered activity but Lyssa defended herself by reiterating that she personally found it a red flag. But at that point, the damage was done and the ‘Dessert Is Gay’ meme was born.
Fellas is it gay to eat dessert? https://t.co/c3jLmGKliQ
— Phil Mitchell Dressed Like He Was In Odd Future (@tom_usher_) April 13, 2020
Fellas, is it gay to order sides? https://t.co/N6spZRekLg
— Craig Bro Dude (@CraigSJ) April 13, 2020
The horrible take came only days after smoothies were also deemed to be “feminine shit”. According to @myculturenoisey, eating fruit is fine but once they’re blended together, you suddenly become attracted to men.
Not only are traditional gender stereotypes being enforced, but it seems like weekly new ones are added to the list. Over the years, more and more things that men can’t do continue to pop up — from wearing glasses to literally having a wife, it seems like almost every activity makes men gay.
And it’s this fear of doing “feminine” activities that makes companies think that every single product needs to be heavily gendered — like aggressive man-sized tissues and gentle, feminine, pink pens for women.
LMAO. People like this are why men’s deodorant are named RIPTIDE GUN CRASH. https://t.co/UOPuVew2nP
— T-Bone the Disco Spider (@_ThreeStacks) April 13, 2020
But, at the end of the day, we do owe some thanks to Lyssa. The ‘Dessert Is Gay’ meme has provided us all with some much needed quarantine entertainment to get us through lockdown.
“Is he… ya know… ordering desserts?” pic.twitter.com/RtvaM6VOAn
— mac kahey (@MacDoesIt) April 14, 2020
my friends when I order a dessert pic.twitter.com/QvQ8Hkgvpq
— john (@Scarlet4UrMa) April 14, 2020
I be eating mad desserts https://t.co/eLs98o8wu0
— xavier (@EverestDropout) April 14, 2020
When you out to eat and your homie orders dessert pic.twitter.com/kTCISwWDVQ
— MR. SOLO DOLO (@_donnydrama) April 14, 2020
haha don’t worry babe I was just out ordering dessert with the boys
— cody 🦝 (@CdyRnkn) April 14, 2020
Me when I order dessert at dinner pic.twitter.com/o5cz67rdOZ
— logan (@hjghwaydocare) April 14, 2020
What I liked about the "ordering dessert is gay" take was that it had an entire internal logic to it involving which parts of a meal are the gayest, something I had never even thought to ask myself or anyone else for that matter.
— Rom, The Vacuous Poster (@PrettyBadLefty) April 14, 2020
when ur on a date thinking “ya u know what hes the one” and he goes ahead and orders dessert pic.twitter.com/uJWbh0WCWK
— amna (@amnaaxs) April 14, 2020
men ordering dessert. https://t.co/bZxujecnY6
— 𝕻𝖗𝖎𝖓𝖈𝖊𝖘𝖘 𝕻𝖆𝖕𝖎 (F²) 🥭 (@fonzfranc) April 14, 2020
To all the men reading this: You do you, king. Order that dessert and spinach dip with pride.